I yearned for love & loyalty and have not ever received the 2 as a package…always love never fidelity & support which is the sad story of my life… Privately & professionally. Hopefully next time I feel like that, I’ll reach out like you did, get reminded again, and laugh. I completely agree with you this article is great! They were absolutely right, no one liked me. The women whom I’ve admired from afar for their minds (mostly) are straight. Unless all that obvious exclusion and unwilingness to speak to me is just an act of covert love, in that case, excuse me for being so silly to think otherwise. And I don’t really want to know you or anyone in particular. Trying to change the thoughts just does not work because deep inside you know you are just going through the motions. Hi there idk if you will read it in this endless comment section but if u do, I have a very similar experience too except it was my dad. I don’t understand why no one love me or care about me , no one ask about me or care about what I felling or what I wan’t , every one aspect to have my attention or services or what ever it was without any think about me . My mother in law told me one time that I needed to take turns going to others holiday events since we were going to so many & it might’ve been cutting on her time & I thought about it & I said yeah that’d be great & I specified by saying they would be one year for Christmas, my mom one year & my dad another & she quickly told me no that wasn’t what she was talking about she wasn’t excluding them just my parents because I was the one that came from a split up you know broken home. I even pray i wasn’t alive. I don’t know of a way that I can get out of this dilemma but reading the comments on this website has made me realize I’m not the only one that feels worthless at times. I often have to make the mental note to smile because I do not do it naturally. Hi, As loneliness researcher Dr. John T. Cacioppo put it “Lonely individuals are more likely to construe their world as threatening, hold more negative expectations, and interpret and respond to ambiguous social behavior in a more negative, off-putting fashion, thereby confirming their construal of the world as threatening and beyond their control.” Once again, this creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. People who feel lonely tend to view the world differently. I help out in group works, help people when they ask me to, smile and be polite, but I don’t understand how these qualities aren’t enough to gain me a friend. Sorry you so lonely , xx Kim. I have a cousin who outwardly fights with other family, always putting in her 2 cents, completely treats people like crap yet she’s always invited and I’m not. Sometimes I’m like “is this even real? I look myself in the mirror and cry and encourage myself that I’ll be fine. They manipulate me by making me promise not to tell but it’s ok for them to break theirs or tell me if I do, it would be my fault for telling. I see people avoid me. I loved reading this! These same people then have the nerve to criticize me for being depressed. There’s been few moments where people tell me bluntly that I’m a terrible person. What I do now is consider the source of my hurt feelings. I go through stages too where I get try to get close to people; however, something inside always pulls me back to square one. I spent a whole day with a guy from high school recently. My father his favorite name for me clumsy child. Hans, Your email address will not be published. My biggest concern is that one day my own children will hate me too , Thats exactly how I feel like if everyone around me is annoyed or bothered by me that by the end of the day I feel like the most loneliest person ever . What do I do about the neighbors as well as her? Please read about it,find a support group and get out. Since I started school, I’ve walked around the playground by myself. One for a free babysitter, and one so they could get gas money from me. I can’t even word this to make my point because I tried meds for depression that left me a mess I found that when I was younger even though I was knowledgeable I asked opinions and listened that made me popular. Turns out, it happens. And yet, this exact thought is extremely common to shy people and extroverts alike. I am open to any tips or suggestions. It is that essence in us that automatically attaches to someone who is compatible. It’s probably not true and I bet everybody likes you but doesn’t like how your mom is mean to you. Bloggers like you gave us new hope and go with the life. I enjoy my work and hobbies and I like to study and learn. I pushed it aside for probably the first time ever and forced myself to read on knowing I was in desperate need of insight and relief. Everybody wants to report everybody about any lil thing. I wish I could see how other people view me because from my point of view, I’m the worst. I’m a unique and worthy person who deserves friendship. But what do you do when within one week, you go out to do shopping or travelling somewhere and you come across people who serve you (in my case, assistants serving me at the check-out in two different supermarkets, and the ticket master at a station) and they just start ‘projecting’ onto you. What is not equal is the status that one love has above the other love. Lastly, values make a difference. The character of a person will either be compatible with one’s own or not. I may do it today as reading all the comments has been powerfully insightful and helpful and tear-jerking and heart-warming! Is that wrong? Bogart and Bacall: The Greatest Love Story Ever Told. Sometimes I just don’t get the world, and why it’s like this for me. I offers her and her brother a drink on Wednesday but as soon as she goes alone to her brothes they end up drinking even though they said they had enough two days and don’t want me around. Challenging this precise feeling is what will lead you to get what you want in life. I’ve tried meditation and stuff like that to clear my mind every day, but I just feel a bit too emotionally reactive. I ended up feeling worse about myself in the end. I swear I’m literally invisible. And when years later I found a partner, he too chose his mom over me. I’m 60 and have felt like most have described here since I was a kid! am so lonely! I have no real friends because I seem to only attract selfsentered people that the world only revolves around them. Even the good grandkids need to just put up with the bad when they visit never says anything to the bad oh she may say something behind their backs but we’re not allowed to comment. Look up the “self-fulfilling prophecy” its quite interesting. I read an article that says if you look at ppl coming towards you in the eye they will move, it seemed to work. You just need the push. I remember a research page I did many years ago, involving dating. A recent U.K. study of millions of people found that one in 10 people didn’t feel they had a close friend, while one in five never or rarely felt loved. I’m all for going out or having drinks and dancing. There is nothing in my life that gives me back something. Sounds like you put a lot of your worth into the opinions of your parents, comparing yourself to your brother, and mixed with a lot of real or delusion when it comes to the opinions of others. Thanks again. I try to change things with no results. Why do I say I’m ok when I’m clearly not ok. And then I’ve noticed on some of my group Hangouts chats when I’m sick nobody asks, “Hey, where’s Alina? I really am not sure what to do next. Once, I tried to tell them they should be quiet because I had a presentation and I wanted to speak up but after around 10 attempts I gave up and just went to their desks and tell them in little groups and even some of the nice people complained about the task I prepared… I’m 24 now and at the beginning of the year when I talked to some colleagues, I noticed that this was the first time in my life, that someone has listened to me. He calls me once maybe twice a year and it makes me wonder how does now your dad do this to you! I hate that! Here’s the thing: I’ve sort of given myself that same advice at various points through the years, and yeah, it definitely works. Thus, I feel like no one loves me when I have nobody to talk to about this deep ooshy gooshy stuff. I do have joy in life though. Just be alone! But no one I feel any connection to. I am the only one who pays any attention to me. My inner voice tells me that what I’m seeking I will never be able to find. I didn’t say it was an easy solution, Elizabeth, Try new palces, new people, new activities, new friendes.. Get distracted from who around you, get bussy, be happy you deserve it! No one wants to hear me when I did try to tell. Being a very sensitive child, I internalized this to believe I was worthless, shameful, a bad person, ugly, and wasn’t deserving of love and respect. It is, however, an excellent example of agape love. For example, if I have always though I am worthless and stupid and nobody likes to talk to me… then in social situation, those thoughts are suffocating my ability to have a positive interaction. Me too , what a relief to fi d this and the comments , might be hope yet. I have had people tell me point-blank “Nobody likes you.” A boss on my first real job said, before firing me, that he had never had so many complaints about an employee. With everything happen throughout my life since the age of six years old being sexual abused, bullied all through school, having to watch and sit seeing my father abuse my mother, it made me feel paralyzed inside. If I am there, that’s fine. I was thinking the same thing Lou! I’ve tried that a few times. My parents do their best for me, help me with my daughter and give me love but I still feel very empty. I am lonely, went through the guilt of divorce, and have been trying to start over again. It had gotten to where I don’t get bothered by it too much anymore bc I spend most of my time with my child. I am your friend, YOU ARE BETTER than the problems. My husband used to say I should kill myself. I bought kinect for me and my gf for her weight issue etc and she still whinges about weight but if it’s my problem I’m apparently putting it on to her. I’m now trying to ask this person, politely to go and see if I can sort out problems without having this person. I could have wrote this with only one exception. We can then recognize how our actions are affected by this destructive thought process. I know people can change , but I have not been able to change anything about myself all these years. The two (or many) have become one. Even if it’s just a little more than your mom does. Directed by Irving Brecher. When you feel like you never do anything right. I just hope it doesn’t stay like this my whole life.. its ruining my life right now ! I have very few friends and am becoming so lonely I just wish life would hurry up and end. Even if initially you wind up feeling embarrassed or not quite yourself when you act against your voice, you should remember to practice self-compassion. its draining and im sick of it. I think I “get it”. NOBODY LIKES YOU!”, Of course, the critical inner voice isn’t experienced as an actual voice talking to us. But I’m a white lesbian who looks like an attractive straight woman. Noone tries to talk to me, seems its always me that has to make the attempt to talk to people. I love Monet, libraries, science, and all of the other cool things that you mentioned. This is a perception. That has been my experience too, my whole life. The voice depends on the person. And before anyone tells me I’m being judgemental(or whatever) you need to know I am speaking from experience. Please believe me when I tell you from experience, you are better than they are! Those who do not readily reveal themselves will not draw love to themselves. Nobody Loves Me Radio advertisement Trivia [edit | edit source]. I did sports and piano too. Some people secrete less oxytocin than others, so they do not feel so much of a bond with another. When strangers confirm that evil “inner voice” – when they laugh at you TO YOUR FACE at how ugly you are (it’s happened to me five times since I was 12, and, yes, each of those five times was when I happened to not have time to put makeup on). Guys please help me.. Now a days I do lot of overthinking .. And all will be negative only. I am reaching out to my family as I feel so unloved, but they can’t be bothered to call me on their own initiative, which is what I asked for. I didn’t think anyone felt like I did. If one has never been loved from birth, it’s difficult to attract love for the rest of one’s life. Thanks again for your touching post , Kim. With Betty Hutton, Ralph Meeker, Robert Keith, Adele Jergens. No man wants to stay with me, despite all my efforts. I decided to keep quiet. don’t mean I have to be friends with them or ever let them hurt me again .. but forgiven helps me to go to something better! I sent emails to this person. I have a really broken view of myself and I can now see how it has affected my relationship with other people. When buying an item from the store in Saints Row 2, the clerk sometimes says "You and Matt from the Feed Dogs have similar tastes. Nobody loves me, nobody cares! 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